Am I emotionally unavailable?
Ten questions about the two seconds before you go quiet. That moment is short, specific, and worth finding.
A mirror, not a measurement. Ten honest questions, no account, nothing saved.
WHAT YOU LEAN TOWARD
You know the pattern and you are in it less
You can see the move as you make it, and often you do not make it. That is a real difference from not noticing, and it is worth registering rather than skipping past.
What your answers suggest is that it is now situational rather than constant. There are specific conversations, or one specific person, where the old move still runs, and those are the ones you would rather not examine.
That narrowness is the opportunity. One relationship, one recurring conversation, one thing that keeps not getting said.