People pleaser test
Ten questions about the exact moment a no turns into a yes. Everyone has one. The useful part is knowing where yours is.
A mirror, not a measurement. Ten honest questions, no account, nothing saved.
WHAT YOU LEAN TOWARD
Your no holds, until certain people ask
You are not agreeable across the board. With most people you can decline something without much trouble. Then there is a particular person, or a particular kind of ask, and the whole apparatus goes.
That specificity is useful information. It means the collapse is not a personality trait, it is a relationship with a particular shape, and it is usually attached to something you believe would happen if you disappointed that one person.
The work here is narrow rather than broad. One relationship, one kind of ask, one sentence you have never risked saying to them.